A comment on my previous blog drew my attention to an article published last week in the New York Times Magazine, titled “What Is It About 20-Somethings?” The article featured two authors whose books were very helpful as I was researching my own: Dr. Jeffrey Arnett and Christine Hassler. Dr. Arnett coined the term emerging adulthood, which characterizes the stage of identity exploration, transition, and possibility that is common among twentysomethings.
The article centered on the debate over whether or not emerging adulthood is a true, new life stage—or if it is just a passing phase due to cultural and economic forces, and one that only the privileged experience. Although the debate isn’t settled, I found the article to be quite insightful. It painted a nuanced portrait of twentysomethings, addressing factors such as the economy, psychological and brain development, and generational and cultural comparisons. Read more…
It’s official. I’m falling in love again. This time, with China. This is such a captivating country that I feel energized just by being here. Of course, there have been adjustments. After Dan’s cough passed, I got sick as my body struggled to adjust to the new environment. But we’re both riding the wellness train now and have been meeting new friends, exploring the city, and eating a whole lot.
When it comes to food, Beijing is the gift that keeps on giving. You can find just about anything here, from every corner of the world, and often for a terrific price. One night we had a five-course meal (including drinks and dessert) for 70RMB, or $10.30. Naturally we’ve been eating at lots of Chinese restaurants—which can be rambunctious. The dishes are served in large family style portions and are heavy and filling. Usually when I walk out the door I’m so full I can’t imagine ever needing to eat again. And although chopsticks and I don’t always get along, we're moving in the right direction. Read more…
Exploring the human psyche is one of my greatest passions. In particular, delving into the shadow has long been a key interest. Over the years, I’ve studied many teachings about the shadow and have come to recognize the enormous benefits of bringing it to light. Today I’ll share some reflections on how to see it in yourself.
What is the shadow? In simplest terms, it is the disowned parts of ourselves. These are the parts we repress, deny, and defend against; and so they remain largely unconscious. Becoming aware of the shadow can be painful, at least initially. Along with our hidden gifts, we may also encounter things we aren’t proud of. In preparing to meet our shadow, we must be willing to feel shame as well as a great deal of self-compassion. So how do you uncover your shadow? Below are several ideas to contemplate. As you sit with them, try to be kind with yourself no matter what you find. Read more…
